Yesterday, I went to Walmart for icecream and milk. As I was walking around, I saw so many new little babies! I love looking at peoples babies even if I don't stop to talk to them. I mean they are just cute! But then I went a bit further as things we jumping in my mind as I saw things that lately, a lot of moms would completely bypass the baby cuteness for. Several of these parents had their babies in the top cart which apparently is a huge no no. And I know that when moms see parents doing this with their child, they think, "I wonder if they know that's not safe" And when the moms find out that those parents know and think its fine then they are even mean in their thinking. Same thing with car seats! People post pics of their kids in their car seats and parents immediately attack how the parent did their car seats! How dare parents turn their babies before a year! Don't they know its not safe?? they need to rear face till at least 4 years of age! Preferably longer! Come on people, this is your childs life! If you get into an accident, you better hope your child doesn't die for your comfort! And yes I have had that said to me before.
We can no longer let parents make the decision for their kids. Because if they aren't doing it the way we feel is the best most safest way, then shame on them! Lets make sure that we beat it into them how wrong they are! And sadly it starts with birth. Women with first babies are constantly being told by drs, by friends, nurses, midwives, families, that their choice is wrong that so and so is pushy and they need to fight for what they want even if they agree with what the drs are doing fight! We can't just inform people, politely, and then let them proceed how they see fit. Instead we make them feel horrible for the way they chose.
I'm so tired of the judgments, the 'I'm better then you' attitudes and the constant need to impress my mommy friends! I have 3 beautifully children all born via c-section and I wouldn't change that for anything. I PRAYED for my first c-section. I was completely happy with my c-section and healed just fine. And while I know not everyone heals well from a c-section, I do believe that BOTH sides need to be told. Not the 'I'm gonna tell you how bad it is so you wont let them do that to you' side! I forward face at a year and 20 lbs. Hubby and I did our research and looked at the statistics and felt that either way would be fine. And we are fine with our choice! My oldest was put in her seat belt high back booster at 4 and 4lbs! Gasp! But she was at the right requirement and she was old enough to understand. My son, I am not sure will get there. And when Chloe out grows her current seat, we will move her to a booster with no back. Not only am I 'breaking all the rules' I am apparently knowingly putting my children's lives in danger. I apparently dont care enough and prefer my comfort over the lives of my children. Which is so far from the truth but is what I have been told or what has been implied. I also put my kids in their car seats on the top part of the cart. I have NEVER had an issue with it being unbalanced and or about to tip over. I was appalled that people were actually upset that parents do that! And yes I have heard the stories of so and so who lost their baby from being on top and I have heard the stories of kids dying forward facing at a year but I have heard stories rear facing as well and I personally have no had any issues with carts. I am tired of people thinking that fear is the way to make moms change their minds. Its not! Inform them, give them information to support your ideas, BUT STEP BACK AND LET THEM DECIDE!!!! It's not your job to tell them what they should and should not do! They are the parents and they will make the decision they see fit. And instead of walking around the stores or seeing pics of kids in car seats and nitpicking everything they did wrong, just dote on how adorable the loving baby is!
Let it go!
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