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Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Bad Mother

Sometimes I feel like I am a bad mother. I have friends all around me who manage to get their house clean, laundry washed, dried, and put away, including diaper laundry, who sit down and read/color/play with their kids and still manage to find time for themselves in the evening! How in the world they accomplish this I have no clue! I do try and work with Chloe on her numbers and colors and stuff but it's not every day, it's intermittent when I do help her. When we are all bored, I don't think of, oh we should color or play with play doh or things like that. We just sit on the floor and play with whatever we have on the floor. I know I am not a bad mom but sometimes I wish I was better at intentionally doing things with my kids. Tv, facebook, none of the things have anything to do with that. I play with my kids all the time while watching/catching up on my shows. It's the actual thinking of other things besides toys to do. Like coloring, or reading, or play doh, or other things like that. I wish my brain would automatically think of these things! Part of the reason why I would never homeschool and part of the reason why Chloe is starting pre-school this year! :O What? Pre-school?? She's only 3!! I know! I can't believe she's almost 3 either and I have gotten the 'isnt she a bit young to start pre-school?' To be honest, no she isn't. I think it would really help her in her learning first off cause I am human and get frustrated with my daughter when I ask her what color something is and the answer I get EVERY SINGLE TIME is color. Someone else who knows how to work with kids and teach them would do WAY better then I would and two, she would love pre-school! The kids she would get to interact with on a regular basis and it's a christian pre-school which would teach her things about God as well! Score! I am super excited about her starting but I am also super nervous cause this is my baby! Wasn't she born just yesterday?? She can't really be almost 3!! It's not possible!! Gah!! Anyways, got off on a bit of a tangent there! I do plan on trying to incorporate more coloring and play doh and things like that this summer and even attempting to take my kids outside by myself *I hate bees* and doing more with them this summer. I wish I knew more about our town and if there was like a kids reading time at the library, although honestly, JJ would so not sit for that! I plan on trying to be more proactive with the kids this summer. I also got Chloe some kids prayers books for her birthday that I am super excited about! And will hopefully start reading them to her at night before bed. And since we only listen to Christian music, she's starting to recognize the songs and sing with them! I know I am not a bad mother, I know I am doing what I know best to do, and I know that I am obviously doing something right since she can count to 5, does know most her colors, and talks up a storm in full understandable sentences *and some non-understandable ones*. I know I am doing something right, just sometimes I wish I did more!

1 comment:

Becky said...

Though this is a rash generalization, I feel that the parents who struggle with feeling like bad parents are the ones who are the BEST parents. It means you always feel like you could do more - like you want the best for your kids and you aren't going to be satisfied with half-assed attempts on your half to make that happen. The parents who never consider the fact that they could be a bad parent are the ones who probably could use a smack upside the head and more than a few lessons in what it means to actually be a parent.

Again, that's a RASH generalization, but I really feel that in a way, this is true.

I know you know this, but you're not a bad mother. But telling you this is not going to keep you from wondering if you are one in the moment.

And it's okay to have those feelings (all feelings are valid), just don't let them overtake your entire thought process and get in the way of your parenting. :)

And for the record...my house is a disaster, I haven't done any organized play with Kayla in about three months, and I almost NEVER get time to myself except when I'm at work, and that SO doesn't count. Lol!