At least that's what most people with an opinion like to think. Granted some are, most not. At least most that I come in contact with. Which can be really irritating. Mostly cause they think what I am doing is wrong or should be done this way, when really, it works for them. But doesnt for me. Why is that so hard for people to understand? Sometimes, it works great what you do, other times, it fails miserably. Sometimes I agree with you. Sometimes I dont. But you should respect my opinions regardless of whether or not you agree.
For instance, circumcision. If we have a boy, we will get it done. For a couple of reasons. One being, my husband is head of house hold. He wants it done, it will be done. Two, I freak out enough as it is cleaning about and would freak out less if I had less skin to worry about. Its cleaner and for my family, that is what we have chosen to do. It's our decision.
CIO aka the "Cry it out" method. We did this. We waited till Chloe was about 4 months old before we started it but we did it. And Jake wanted to do it sooner. But I wanted to do it my way and was ok with that. Even though my way consisted of changing diaper, nursing, rocking, and putting her to bed only to have her wake within minutes and start the process all over again till 4am when she was finally asleep for the night. I probably would have kept it up but lack of sleep got to me and my fibromyalgia flared. There were times I hurt so bad that I could barely walk to my room to go to bed. I knew it was time to try Jake's way. Guess what! She goes to sleep usually with in 10 mins! Sometime with little crying, sometimes with no crying! It worked! And my body is better because of it! And when we get prego again, we will do it again.
I'm going to pierce Chloe's ears in a couple of weeks. Not so she will look cute although that is a plus. I'm doing it so that I don't have to go through what my sister went through with my niece. My niece got her ears pierced at 4 yrs I think. She played with them so much they got infected and ended up having to take them and lost her wholes. She wants her ears pierced like mom and auntie but doesn't want to go through the pain of having it done. So, we are getting it done. Its just like shots. It will hurt a little bit but I will be the one in charge of cleaning it and I will be the one making sure it doesn't get infected. Not my 5 year old. My lactation nurse agreed with me. Get it done now while they are young!
These things are my opinion. They work for our family. But its also OUR family! Whether you agree or not is irrelevant because in the end you don't make the decisions. We do. We will live the consequences, good and bad, of those decisions. Us. Not you. Share your opinion. Speak your mind. But don't get all pissy when I don't agree with you and go against what you do. You have your opinions, I have mine. If we can respect each other knowing that, life would be a lot easier!
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I was JUST having a similar conversation with Damie this morning. We were discussing how irritating it can be when people get so appalled at something we're doing with/to our children. Like because they've had children before they're experts and we clearly don't know what we're doing, being new moms and all. Sigh. I guess we just have to take it with a grain of salt and do things our own way anyway. Because, like you said, what works for one person may not work for another. Not that knowing that makes it any easier to listen to "experts..." :)
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